Love languages are the ways we express and receive love. Take this quiz to discover your primary love language and learn how to better connect with your partner!
Instructions: For each question, choose the statement that best describes you. Be honest and answer instinctively.
- When someone I love does something special for me, I feel most loved when:
- A. They give me a thoughtful gift.
- B. They spend quality time with me.
- C. They say something encouraging to me.
- D. They help me with practical tasks.
- I feel loved when someone:
- A. Holds my hand or hugs me.
- B. Sends me a sweet text or leaves me a love note.
- C. Does something helpful for me without being asked.
- D. Gives me a meaningful gift.
- I feel appreciated when someone:
- A. Compliments my appearance or something I’ve done.
- B. Does something to help me out.
- C. Spends time with me just talking or doing something we both enjoy.
- D. Gives me a surprise gift.
- When I spend quality time with someone I love, I feel most connected when we:
- A. Go out and do something fun together.
- B. Have deep conversations or share experiences.
- C. Watch a movie or show together.
- D. Plan and work on a project together.
- When I feel down, I feel better when someone:
- A. Gives me a hug or holds my hand.
- B. Offers to help me with something.
- C. Listens to me and empathizes with how I’m feeling.
- D. Gives me a thoughtful gift or surprise.
- I appreciate it most when my partner:
- A. Shows physical affection.
- B. Does something practical to help me.
- C. Encourages and supports me verbally.
- D. Gives me a gift I’ve been wanting.
- For me, a perfect date night is:
- A. Going out for a romantic dinner.
- B. Spending a quiet evening at home together.
- C. Having a deep conversation over coffee or tea.
- D. Exchanging small, meaningful gifts.
- I feel closest to my partner when:
- A. We are physically close (e.g., holding hands, cuddling).
- B. We work together on a task or project.
- C. We express our love and appreciation verbally.
- D. We give each other thoughtful gifts.
- When I receive a gift from my partner, I appreciate it most when:
- A. It’s something I’ve been wanting or mentioned before.
- B. It shows that my partner was thinking about me.
- C. It comes with a heartfelt note or card.
- D. It’s a surprise and unexpected.
- I feel most loved when my partner:
- A. Puts their arm around me or holds me.
- B. Helps me with something practical.
- C. Tells me they love me or believes in me.
- D. Gets me a meaningful gift.
- When I want to show my partner love, I usually:
- A. Give them a hug or kiss.
- B. Do something to help them out.
- C. Write them a thoughtful note or text.
- D. Get them a gift I know they’ll like.
- During an argument, I feel better when my partner:
- A. Holds my hand or touches me gently.
- B. Helps me solve the problem.
- C. Tells me they understand my point of view.
- D. Gives me a small gift to show they care.
- When I want to connect with my partner, I often:
- A. Initiate physical contact (e.g., holding hands, hugging).
- B. Offer to help them with a task or project.
- C. Compliment them or express my love verbally.
- D. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift.
- My partner shows they love me when they:
- A. Are physically affectionate (e.g., hugs, kisses).
- B. Do something to make my life easier.
- C. Tell me they appreciate and love me.
- D. Give me a gift I’ve been wanting.
- I feel valued when my partner:
- A. Shows physical affection like touching or holding me.
- B. Helps me with practical things I need to get done.
- C. Compliments me or encourages me verbally.
- D. Gives me a special gift that they put thought into.
- I like it when my partner:
- A. Gives me a hug when I’m feeling down.
- B. Takes care of something I don’t want to do.
- C. Tells me they love and appreciate me.
- D. Buys me something they know I’ll like.
- I feel loved when my partner:
- A. Shows their love with a hug or kiss.
- B. Does something for me that I know they don’t like to do.
- C. Praises me or tells me they believe in me.
- D. Gives me a gift that they chose specifically for me.
- When I think about my ideal weekend with my partner, it usually involves:
- A. Physical closeness (e.g., cuddling, holding hands).
- B. Doing practical things together (e.g., chores, tasks).
- C. Talking and spending quality time together.
- D. Exchanging small gifts or surprises.
- If I had to choose, I’d prefer:
- A. A hug or kiss from my partner.
- B. My partner to help me with something.
- C. A heartfelt compliment or word of encouragement.
- D. My partner to give me a gift they chose for me.
- When my partner gives me a gift, I prefer:
- A. Something that shows they were thinking of me.
- B. Something practical that I can use.
- C. Something that comes with a loving note or card.
- D. Something I’ve mentioned wanting or needing.
- I feel closest to my partner when we:
- A. Physically touch each other often.
- B. Work together on something we both need to get done.
- C. Talk and share our thoughts and feelings.
- D. Surprise each other with thoughtful gifts.
- I show my love for my partner by:
- A. Being physically affectionate (e.g., hugs, kisses).
- B. Doing practical things to make their life easier.
- C. Telling them how much I love and appreciate them.
- D. Getting them a gift I know they’ll like.
- When I’m feeling down, I most appreciate it when my partner:
- A. Holds me or touches me affectionately.
- B. Helps me with practical things I need to get done.
- C. Encourages me and tells me things will get better.
- D. Gets me a little gift to cheer me up.
- I know my partner loves me when:
- A. They show physical affection like hugs and kisses.
- B. They do something practical to help me out.
- C. They express their love and appreciation in words.
- D. They surprise me with a thoughtful gift.
- When I think of my ideal way to spend an evening with my partner, it usually involves:
- A. Physical affection and closeness.
- B. Getting something practical done together.
- C. Talking and connecting emotionally.
- D. Exchanging small tokens of love and appreciation.
Scoring:
- For each question, assign 1 point to the letter that best describes you.
- Add up your points for each letter to find out your primary love language.
Results:
- Mostly A’s: Your love language may be Physical Touch. You feel loved through physical gestures like hugs, kisses, and holding hands.
- Mostly B’s: Your love language may be Acts of Service. You feel loved when someone does something helpful or thoughtful for you.
- Mostly C’s: Your love language may be Words of Affirmation. You feel loved when someone compliments you, encourages you, or expresses their love verbally.
- Mostly D’s: Your love language may be Receiving Gifts. You feel loved when someone gives you a meaningful or thoughtful gift.
- Mixed Scores: You may have more than one primary love language. Your results may indicate that you appreciate and feel loved through multiple ways of expressing affection.
Understanding your love language can help you and your partner communicate your feelings more effectively and build a stronger, more loving relationship.
